What is it with flying?

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Photo credit by Me en route to Tbilisi, Georgia.

I just arrived in Abu Dhabi after being home for 1 month due to a broken ankle. It took me 2 flights to get here (San Jose-Paris 10hrs) and (Paris-Abu Dhabi 6.35hrs). I am jet lagged, with a swollen ankle and off course, missing my family.

This slight sadness while being on the other side of the world, makes me think WHY AM I DOING THIS? It’s not like I am going to fly forever! Especially knowing that this job is not a lifetime career here.  On October 1st, I turned 31 and we have all heard that Middle Eastern airlines are known for the early 20’s crew.  Now that I’ve got my flying license suspended until my foot gets better. I’ll have plenty of time to think about my life and try to think what my future step will be!

While I was flying back from home, I took Air France and as crew, you can’t avoid but compare the service between cabin crew of other airlines. That particular crew had a median age of around 45 years old and they all looked so calm, poised, polite but with a don’t mess with me look. They do have this job for a lifetime, no age restrictions or exhausting schedules. Plus, passengers don’t get all complicated with them because they know that they simply can’t!

Us on the other side, are supposed to be bubbly, excited to serve and always looking pretty. It is extremely demanding and tiring sometimes! If I had only 4/5 flights a month or so, off course I could do this for a VERY LONG TIME! Instead, I feel my body is getting drained quickly. This past month, I was able to sleep deeply and without interruptions. Going to bed around 21:30 and waking up without an alarm at 6:30/7am and just having a “normal” life.

Now that I’m back in UAE, the first night was terrible. Off course I passed out at 16hrs, woke up at 21:30 and couldn’t manage to close my eyes until 06:35am! Yes its jet lag but also the stress of not knowing when I am going back to work and if I’ll feel comfortable after being on ground for a while…

Relationships & the Sky ❤️

Are you married, do you have a boyfriend? 

 

We fly with different people every day. Before each flight, we have to attend a  briefing where we introduce ourselves, where we come from, how long we’ve worked in the company and our position for the flight.

Once in flight and if we have some free time, we start finding topics to break the ice and off course what’s more interesting than our personal lives! In that moment it’s like we’ve known each other forever. It is so easy to open up and talk about our relationships. Maybe because we all left our families, we find comfort in other crew and we start talking about life.

Let’s say that in my case, I have quite the story. I had a relationship of almost 4 years and we were engaged. Then I decided to break up. Whenever I share my story with other people, they think he cheated on me or was not a good person. I laugh because it’s completely different.

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I got bored, nothing else. It just wasn’t there anymore. Since my job is so versatile and I’m always on the move, the routine scared me. I could not picture myself in a forever situation yet. After the breakup, I decided to wear a ring for work just because I could not be bothered anymore, I like my space.

It is nice to have someone to be with when you are off work, whom you can talk to about your work issues and de-stress at the same time. However, I think all the possible “Prince Charming” that I have met so far, do not know how to handle me.

I don’t overdo feelings, I like to spend time together but when I need my space, I mean it. Men in Arabic countries can be complex but thanks to them, I have learned a lot about dating outside of my culture.

I am attracted to the manly macho type. Arabic prospects catch my eye and I catch theirs too. They’re charming, smell good, look good and have a witty personality. If you date one, it starts amazing. Time passes by and things might change, its up to each other how to handle it. They can loose focus quite fast though.

I don’t blame them at all! They have so many options in one small city that they might start multitasking between girls.  These last few years, in my experiences it’s just ended due to natural causes and boredom again.

Still I’m happy being alone and enjoying casual dating. When the right time will come, I will know it and find my “Aladdin with a flying carpet” 😝.