Relationships & the Sky ❤️

Are you married, do you have a boyfriend? 

 

We fly with different people every day. Before each flight, we have to attend a  briefing where we introduce ourselves, where we come from, how long we’ve worked in the company and our position for the flight.

Once in flight and if we have some free time, we start finding topics to break the ice and off course what’s more interesting than our personal lives! In that moment it’s like we’ve known each other forever. It is so easy to open up and talk about our relationships. Maybe because we all left our families, we find comfort in other crew and we start talking about life.

Let’s say that in my case, I have quite the story. I had a relationship of almost 4 years and we were engaged. Then I decided to break up. Whenever I share my story with other people, they think he cheated on me or was not a good person. I laugh because it’s completely different.

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I got bored, nothing else. It just wasn’t there anymore. Since my job is so versatile and I’m always on the move, the routine scared me. I could not picture myself in a forever situation yet. After the breakup, I decided to wear a ring for work just because I could not be bothered anymore, I like my space.

It is nice to have someone to be with when you are off work, whom you can talk to about your work issues and de-stress at the same time. However, I think all the possible “Prince Charming” that I have met so far, do not know how to handle me.

I don’t overdo feelings, I like to spend time together but when I need my space, I mean it. Men in Arabic countries can be complex but thanks to them, I have learned a lot about dating outside of my culture.

I am attracted to the manly macho type. Arabic prospects catch my eye and I catch theirs too. They’re charming, smell good, look good and have a witty personality. If you date one, it starts amazing. Time passes by and things might change, its up to each other how to handle it. They can loose focus quite fast though.

I don’t blame them at all! They have so many options in one small city that they might start multitasking between girls.  These last few years, in my experiences it’s just ended due to natural causes and boredom again.

Still I’m happy being alone and enjoying casual dating. When the right time will come, I will know it and find my “Aladdin with a flying carpet” 😝.

Oh I’ve always wanted to be a Flight Attendant! 🌎

I hear this line quite often from people when they ask me what I do for a living… 

The thing is, it’s not always as amazing as it sounds! Don’t get me wrong here, in my 6+ years of flying, I’ve seen and heard quite a lot of things that make me think, “Yes it’s an exciting job but it’s not forever!”

Quite surely I can say that it’s not a career in the Middle East Airlines. I started when I was 23 and now I am 31 and I feel the difference! We usually work 12 to 14 hour duties from sign in, have multiple flights a week with only 11 hours legal rest in between. Yes sometimes we get 5 days off in a row but in my case, as I fly mostly the 320, I’m constantly living in my uniform and it started to mentally and physically drain me.

My usual routes are India, Pakistan, Africa and the Gulf Countries. Sometimes I try to be positive and say well I get to sleep in my own bed tonight but then, when I get back home at 2am and know that my next duty starts at 14:00hrs, it makes me think is it worth it?

My body is having more of hard time adjusting to my busy schedules which involve Late night Turnarounds and 4 sectors a day most of the time. Yes we look pretty and are smiling to the guests, but they don’t really know how we feel on the inside and they shouldn’t as we chose to do this on our own. However, as an advice be nice to us when your getting on the plane! If we greet you, just say hi back!

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This is my lucky charm Minion Captain in the Flight Deck!

It is a constantly demanding job. You have to please everyone even if they’re shouting at you because they didn’t get their meal preference or the person in front of them reclined their seat. We have many duties to fulfill in just 1 flight. We secure the cabin, serve meals, collect the trash, attend to First Aid cases, sell duty free, do walk arounds, clean the toilets and Oh boy, that’s fun! (Yes that’s sarcasm talking). Whenever we are about to sit to eat after running around like headless chickens, there’s something that comes up and there you go to attend that call bell that is only for you to pick up leftover trash.

Being a HUB, the area where I work is mostly for connections. We deal with people from different cultures, manners and beliefs. It is hard to please them all! I remember once, I cried because I felt so insulted by someone that I couldn’t take it anymore. Yet we wipe the tears off and come out with a smile.

Do I regret leaving what could’ve been my long term job as a Journalist to travel the world? Absolutely not! But now I’m in the middle of a 30’s life uncertainty. What will I do next?

Eight years living between Doha and now the UAE started to feel like its time for me to move on. Being alone and so far away from family makes you think a lot about it!

If there’s anyone out there who’s been flying and decided to leave the job for good, share your insights with me! Advices from fellow colleagues are always welcomed!